Non-knitting content ~ I've rewritten this post 3 times now. And I'm still very leery of publishing it, but what the heck. Here goes.
There hasn't been any word from my
Marine friend Scott. Not one. My emails aren't coming back with the message "mailbox full" anymore, so I'm assuming that he is getting them. For those of you who remember, I last heard from Scott in July, when he told me that he had been badly hurt in Iraq back in March.
Every day I hope I'll get a response from him to one of my many emails. Every day I'm disappointed. It's getting to the point where I'm feeling a bit masochistic, if not psychotic, about sending notes to someone whom I care so much about, but who doesn't want to maintain contact. It hurts. I've been moping about it for weeks now. Work has helped, keeping me busy, but my mood has been sinking steadily downward.
So, today, at noon and still in my jammies, I got to thinking about this state of affairs. And how f*cking depressing this house has become in my current mood. So, I gave myself some advice, took it, and damned if I'm not feeling a bit better, and am going out into the world. I would like to offer this advice to Scott, since he might read this (I'd sent him the URL months ago and several times since), and to anyone else out there who might feel sad and lonely and lost today.
1. Get in the shower. If you're cold, make it a hot one. Scrub, cry, scream if you need to. You'll feel better when you're done, I promise.
2. If you wear makeup put some on. Put on deodorant and brush your teeth. Dry your hair and brush it until your scalp tingles.
3. Turn off the tv. Put on some music that makes you feel wonderful. My choice this afternoon is Robert Cray's "Midnight Stroll" CD. Great stuff.
4. Go for a walk outside. If it's too cold where you are, bundle up beforehand and go anyway. If you're in a wheelchair, bundle up and get outside onto the sidewalk, the patio, the front porch. Breathe. See the ice crystals that come from your mouth as you exhale? It's a sign you're alive. And that's a very, very good thing.
Whether or not you believe in God or a higher power, you've been given a gift. The amazing, miraculous gift of life. Sure, bad things happen. People will hurt you. People you thought were your friends might turn out not to be. Circumstances both beyond and within your control may cause you pain. Shit, as my brother would say, happens. It's not worth giving up.
A friend of mine told me recently to keep my heart open. "Even if it's rusted open," she advised. She's a smart one, and her words have been in my thoughts for awhile now. I'm not sure why people come into our lives, make a deep connection, then leave. I guess it's the fact that those special people have influenced us at all that is the miracle. The affirmation that there is good and love and peace out there in the world. So if you're feeling down today, humor me and try an experiment. Tell someone sincerely that you care about them. You just might make a world of difference in their day. Bet it will have an impact on yours, too. What could it hurt? And then---go knit something, for heaven's sake! :)